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How to Have a Happy Birthday

Birthdays have always been a bit tricky for me.  For a long time I believed that something bad would always happen on my special day (mostly because, for several years in a row, I had disastrous birthdays where loved ones became gravely ill, pets died, people got in car accidents and general chaos and doom reigned) and so I tended to try to just get it over and done with as quickly as possible.

As I got older and, particularly after surviving a life-threatening illness, I starting believing that having another birthday was actually pretty good.  Bad stuff could still happen, but then it could on any other day, so why worry about it?

Usually, I try and organise a dinner out, or a get-together of some description with friends or family or both.  This year, I just wanted time on my own.  I didn’t want to involve anyone else, which sounds really selfish and unsociable, but I just wanted to spend my day pottering about by myself, doing as I pleased and not having any schedule to follow.  I highly recommend it 🙂  I don’t get lonely and am quite happy with my own company.  I wanted a stress-free, restorative, recharging kind of day.

So, my idea of a good birthday goes something like this…..

1. Dress in a comfortable outfit, in your favourite colours.  
Makeup and hair done for no one else but yourself.

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I don’t feel blue wearing blue!

 

2. Take yourself out for a delicious, hearty breakfast…….

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Field Mushrooms on Sourdough, with Goat’s Cheese and Poached Eggs…

3…..and eat it all up.  Don’t feel guilty at all.

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All gone!

4.  Visit a favourite, gorgeous shop.  Wander around for an hour or so and don’t buy anything.  Feel good that you didn’t spend unnecessarily (even if it is because you’re a bit poor right now and couldn’t afford to even if you wanted to).

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Antidote in Mount Hawthorn
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Hammered and stamped recycled spoons at Antidote – Love them!

 

5. Make yourself a birthday cake and share it with loved ones at dinner time.   It doesn’t matter if the cake is a bit homely looking.  People will be polite and eat it anyway.

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6.  Drink vast quantities of tea, preferably out of pretty china so you feel like a lady.

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Tea for one!

 

7.  Go op-shopping.  Buy shoes for a ridiculously low price (in this case $4.25).

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New shoes! (well, 2nd hand new!)

 

So, for me, a perfect birthday is one in which I spend time doing things I enjoy, with no schedule or plan.  I ended the day with my brother and his family, which was lovely – I even had candles on my cake and everyone sang “Happy Birthday” to me.  Delightful. Maybe spending a day on your own isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but it was exactly what I needed and I’m so glad I did it.

So how do you spend your birthday?  Do you like to ignore it, go all out and spoil yourself, or plan a quiet day of solitude and reflection?  Whatever you do, I hope you always feel loved and appreciated on your special day.

Thanks for dropping by x

Make it Work

Make it Work

Another weekend done and dusted.  Wish they would last longer, although, even if they did, I would still complain they weren’t long enough.  This weekend has been restful and relaxing, with beautiful weather and nowhere to be.  No plans or schedules.  Nothing more taxing than walking down the shop for some milk.  I even watched some bad TV, which I rarely do, and slept in without guilt, went walking with a friend (arranged at the last minute) and had a couple of crafty days.

On Friday night I went out with friends from work.  I was suffering with a headache and a bad case of the “I really don’t want to go out and be sociable” blues, so wasn’t the best company for anyone.  We went to dinner and a pub in the city and then on to a comedy night.  It was ok.  I kinda get tired of the same old dirty jokes and swearing.  I’m not a prude (*stamps foot and pouts*) but I do think it is lazy when comedians use bad language and jokes about sex in order to get a laugh.  It’s just a bit…predictable.  We also had a group of hecklers in the audience which was VERY annoying.  There is nothing uglier than a bunch of middle-aged women, drunk as skunks and twice as obnoxious.  It’s just embarrassing.  And, as I said, annoying.  The comedians managed to get the last laugh on them in the end but it still spoiled much of the acts.

Yesterday I got stuck into K’s order for more jewellery.  I finished everything she asked for – hope she likes them all but of course I will change them if not.  I made :

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…a wood and ceramic necklace with K’s red coral beads.  Not sure if I like this one – but it’s not for me so maybe K will like it…

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…ceramic and coral earrings…

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…and a shell and polished stone necklace.

I also had to fix a couple of things for her and put a clasp on another necklace.  I made a few other pieces (for my own stock) as well including :

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Then I decided to have a change and try and make some cards.  I haven’t had much luck with them lately.  Nothing I make seems up to standard, so I was determined today to make something half-way decent.  I just need to MAKE THINGS WORK, even when I am unsure of them. I started with a card I am making for a friend at work who is having a baby (girl) soon:

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I’m quite pleased with it – I didn’t want to use just the typical girly pinks…

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…so I used a combination of pastels and brights and some bold text and buttons.

Then I attempted a more “shabby” card.  I have always preferred that kind of style, but just lately I haven’t been able to create anything I’m even remotely happy with.  I didn’t do much better today, but it’s a start.  So I made this “blooming tree” card with some vintage text and lace:

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…it’s ok, not my best effort, but alright!

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Lastly, I made a card using some papers that I was given – colours I would not work with normally.  I thought I would try and go fairly simple (I have a tendency to just keep on adding things) and stick to the two main colours of orange and mauve.  I added some liquid pearls and a stamped sentiment right at the end (I also added another bubble/blob as you can see in the last two photos – it was unbalanced otherwise):

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So, not a wasted weekend and one of much rest and solitude.  Back to work tomorrow – looking less and less forward to work days as August progresses and the big relocation of 90% of our staff to a new building begins.  I’m going to miss everyone (but not the politics) and just don’t know if work will be the same from now on.  But I will have to MAKE IT WORK!  I need to  suck it up and do my job and live my life with a little less whinging, and a little bit more backbone and tenacity.  I have always been scared of change and this last year has showed me that I CAN survive it and even learn to embrace it, if I just hang in there.  With the divorce coming up, I am a little more fragile than usual and needing support more than ever – but I will have to be my own cheer squad and try to just remember that I actually have things pretty good and will be ok 🙂

Hope your weekend has been happy x